In 1 Samuel 25, Abigail faced this situation. Her husband, Nabal, denied a reasonable request from David, showing a lack of gratitude for David’s protection—and insulting David to boot! She learned David planned to kill every male in Nabal’s household. She was caught in the middle.
Abigail could have notified Nabal, let him arm himself, and let the bloodbath play out. She could have sneaked off to save herself and let Nabal be killed—he was a mean and foolish man after all. However, she looked to God for wisdom.
At great danger—from both Nabal and David—Abigail took large quantities of food to David and his men. She fell on her face before him, acknowledged Nabal’s actions as foolish and wrong, and presented her gift. God’s wisdom shone in her words—she recognized David as God’s anointed who would be king of Israel, and hoped he wouldn’t be burdened by the shame of needless bloodshed and vengeance.
David’s reaction? He praised God. He knew the Lord sent Abigail to keep him from a stupid mistake. Abigail’s decision to follow the Lord was well rewarded.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6).